Treat Your Money Like a Lover

 

That’s right, imagine treating your money like a lover.

Adding a little romance to your relationship with money can transform it. When you pay your bills, are you full of anything like angst, dread, stress, or bored tolerance?

 

Try this next time: light a candle, play some mood music, dress in something that makes you feel fabulous, slow down, and bless each and every dollar that pays each and every bill. Feel gratitude for the bills you can pay. If there are some you can’t, light a special candle in honor of the money that is coming to you in order to pay it.

 

Why am I suggesting this? Because MONEY, like everything in the universe, IS ENERGY. It is attracted to people and places that appreciate it and treat it well. Like attracts like. If you are thinking and feeling prosperous thoughts, you are more likely to create a prosperous life.

 

Imagine the difference between the person who says, “I’ll always be broke. I just can’t get out of debt…” and the one who says, “I am now creating great financial health for myself, one step at a time.” It’s like the difference between “I’ll never meet the right person for me. I’ll always be alone…” and “I’m confident that there is someone out there for me, and I am going to remain open to meeting the love of my life.”

 

Who is more likely to be financially healthy?

Who is more likely to fall in love?

 

When you interact with your money from a position of anxiety and drudgery versus appreciation and romance, it’s another form of negative thinking, and it does nothing to cultivate a positive relationship or attract what you desire.

 

“If your goal is to get out of debt, I guarantee you you’ll be in debt until you die. Because we become what we think about.”  ~ Bob Proctor

 

If your focus is on creating great financial health, and you cultivate your thoughts and actions carefully in that direction, you’ll very likely succeed.

 

But the programming of your childhood might take some undoing. Your subconscious mind, where your true beliefs reside, has been thinking a certain way about money for a long, long time, whether you know it or not.

 

Start by writing down a financial goal that makes you feel good. Put it in a place where you will look at it regularly every day. Only 3% of adults have written goals, and they make more than the other 97% combined. Why? Because the act of writing them down puts your subconscious mind to work 24×7 to make them true.

And by all means, next time you pay those sexy bills, slip into something more comfortable, set the mood, and begin your romantic interlude.

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Make Salads You’ll Actually Want to Eat

 

I make really good salads, and it makes me sad to hear about people suffering with boring lettuce and tomato salads with bottled dressing! Let’s face it, that kind of salad just does NOT make it very fun to get your veggies.

 

Read on for my 7 hot tips — plus 2 EXTRA HOT tips — for making salads you’ll actually look forward to eating.

Rainbow Chard

Tip #1: Choose a Green with “Staying Power”

I recommend that most of the time, you make a salad that you’d still want to eat the next day as leftovers. Then, when you make one big salad, you can enjoy it for two days. The best greens for leftovers are things like:

  • Spinach
  • Romaine
  • Arugula
  • Chard
  • Kale

EXTRA HOT TIP #1: Kale can be rather tough. To make it softer and more pleasant to eat, start by putting little pieces of it in your salad bowl. Then, massage your dressing into the leaves with your hands. The kale will “wilt” and soften before your eyes!

EXTRA HOT TIP #2: Buy pre-washed organic spinach at Whole Foods or other health food store. The easier it is to prepare the salad, the more likely you are to eat it!

Tip #2: Include Texture Variety

Your mouth wants to be delighted, so bring in some variety. For example, mix apples with kale, romaine with olives, spinach with mango, and chard with roasted beets. You don’t want everything to have the same sort of texture.

Tip #3: Add a Lot of “Stuff”

I find it more fun to eat a salad with a lot of stuff in it. Experiment with adding nuts, seeds, fruit, cheese (not a lot), and a wide variety of veggies.

Tip #4: Toast Seeds & Sliced Almonds

If using things like pumpkin seeds or sliced almonds, put enough of them in a small, dry pan to cover the bottom. (Don’t use non-stick pans – ever, because they’re highly toxic. They also wouldn’t work well for toasting. Just use a small sautee pan.) Stir or flip them around over med-high heat until they are slightly browned and toasted. This brings out the flavor.

Tip #5: Have a Go-To Dressing

You don’t need to buy dressing in a bottle. It usually has sugar and other undesirable stuff added to it. My absolute favorite is equal parts olive oil, unpasteurized apple cider vinegar, and Bragg’s brand liquid amino acids. It goes with almost anything. You can also add it to main dishes like beans & brown rice as a finishing sauce.

Tip #6: Add Quinoa & Healthy Fats to Make it a Quick Meal

Since quinoa is a perfect protein, it’s a great addition when you want the salad to be your meal. I often make a cup of quinoa early in the week and use it periodically throughout the week. For healthy fats, my favorite ingredients are nuts, seeds, and avocado.

Tip #7: Use Cheese for an Extra “Kick”

Cheese is fine in moderation, and I include some in almost every salad for that extra “kick.” Crumbled soft cheeses like feta, gorgonzola, and goat cheese – or grated hard cheeses – can really add the right finishing touch. Keep in mind that sheep and goat dairy are generally better for digestion than cow dairy.

Check Out These Salad Ideas

  • Kale with roasted beets, toasted sliced almonds, orange slices, and goat cheese.
  • Arugula with shaved fennel, grated parmesan, and toasted pine nuts. With this one, you really only need to dress it with some really nice olive oil and a little sea salt.
  • Romaine with cherry tomatoes, diced cucumber, sliced Greek olives, diced bell pepper (any color), and crumbled feta – basically, a Greek salad, which is my current favorite.
  • Spinach with apples, walnuts, gorgonzola, and celery.
  • Chard with toasted pumpkin seeds, steamed asparagus, avocado, and roasted eggplant.

Do you have any tips and salad recipes to add? Leave a comment and be sure to subscribe for regular updates!

 

Are You Just a Girl Who Can’t Say “No”?

(Psst…this applies to the guys too!)

Whether we are talking about physical health, financial health, or your overall wellbeing, your ability to say “no” is essential.

I used to have a hard time with this. I identified with being a busy person, and I associated being busy with being important. Frankly, I was afraid to allow any space to be with my own thoughts. However, this did nothing to help me to create the kind of life I wanted. It just kept me busy – and unhealthily stressed out.

 

Taking good care of yourself requires healthy boundaries. If you’re saying yes to every committee, social engagement, request for help, etc., then you may keep putting exercise, meditation, quality time with those you love, and preparing healthy foods on the back burner.

 

Financial health also requires setting healthy boundaries. If you can’t say say “no” to every little thing you want to buy, you’ll be in trouble. If you can’t say “no” to the events, activities, thoughts, email messages, phone calls, or other distractions that take you away from focusing on your financial and professional goals, you also are likely to spin your wheels.

 

Integrity – doing the things you say you will do – is an important form of setting boundaries.

The most important person with whom to maintain your integrity is YOU. Do you use phrases that let you cop out on your commitments to yourself?

  • I’ll TRY to exercise more this week”…and then you don’t?
  • I’ll SEE if these dietary changes work for me”…but then you only do them part way, or only for a week or two?
  • I’m GOING TO save more money”…but it never seems to happen?
  • I’ll DO WHAT I CAN to start that business”…but you never really do?

 

What about simply saying I AM doing the things I want to do for myself. “I am committing to…..” In the absence of commitment, you have an escape hatch, and your words and actions have little power. But you can always say, “well, at least I tried.”

 

In the immortal words of Yoda, “TRY NOT! DO…or do not. There is no try.”

 

When it comes to integrity, your ability to say, “YES, I will” is just as important as your ability to say, “NO, I won’t”! Setting boundaries means leaving room for maintaining your integrity. It includes defining what you WILL and WILL NOT do – and then sticking to it! You can go back and renegotiate the commitment later, but make the renegotiation a conscious act, not a slippery slope.

 

Here are some questions you might ask yourself – and then act on:

  • What can I “prune” from my life?
  • What can I remove from my to do list each day?
  • What am I spending money on that it’s time to stop?
  • What have I been telling myself for ages I’m going to do, but I haven’t?
  • What am I willing to commit to – to myself and/or to others – that will support me in creating the life that I desire?

Post a comment! Tell us about where you’ve said NO, or committed to saying YES!

 

 

Torrid Love Triangle: Your Gut, Your Mood, & Sugar

The Scandal Inside Your Gut

On average, your gut is 7 feet long, and it makes about 80% of your serotonin — that’s the FEEL-GOOD neurotransmitter that helps you to feel optimistic, positive, and hopeful. (The anti-depressant Prozac increases serotonin levels.)

 

If your gut isn’t healthy and happy, it may not produce serotonin very well. This compromises your ability to maintain a positive outlook, as well as your creativity, concentration, and ability to think things through. You may find yourself depressed, scattered, or short tempered and not sure why.

 

Bad gut bacteria can be a big part of the problem. Research shows that bad bacteria also has an impact on our metabolism, and that we are more likely to gain weight and become bloated when the “bad bugs” reign!

Guess what bad bacteria THRIVE on? SUGAR!

To compound matters, when you’re low on serotonin, you’re more likely to crave sugar, because sugar gives you a temporary serotonin “hit.”

Sugar is the clearly the bad boy in this love triangle.

If you’re wondering how healthy your gut it, the state of your daily “elimination” gives you a good indication. Hint: “fluffy floaties” in a nice S-shape are better than “stinky sinkers”, if you’ll pardon my mentioning it.

 

So how do get (and keep) your gut healthy?

  • Take probiotics – PRO means good. Probiotics are the good guys that fight off the bad guys. They also help you to break down and digest your food.
  • Stay well hydrated to allow your gut to play its detoxification role effectively.
  • Take your vitamins.
  • Get plenty of fiber, at least 25 grams per day.
  • Go 30 days without any high-glycemic foods (a.k.a. the foods the body interprets as sugar), then continue with a low-glycemic lifestyle for most of your daily choices.
    • You’ve got to starve the bad bugs of their drug of choice — sugar — and that takes time. That’s part of the reason our Health Revolution Nutrition Program lasts for 30 days. Consider doing this program with our support. It’s just 30 tiny days out of your entire life, and it could change your life for good.

 

Are You Living on the Edge…or Taking Up Too Much Room?

“If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much room.” ~ Bob Proctor

 

I have a confession. I am often just on the edge of fear. Right now, I’m entering the unknown of having a baby while building a business — completely new (i.e. scary) territory! I am aware that fear is my ego talking, and that to achieve my greatness, I must ignore it and keep moving ahead anyway.

 

It’s scary to create the life you really, really want. I mean, most people aren’t doing it. If it were easy, everyone would do it.

 

Creating change in your life – whether it’s a revolution in your health, wealth, pleasure in life, or some other area – takes courage. Change takes guts, and it puts you on the edge of your comfort zone. Actually, it usually places you squarely outside of that zone, which doesn’t always feel great.

 

But I’ll tell you what feels worse – staying where you are if that’s not where you really want to be. This is your life.

 

But where do you begin?

With the First Step

  • Send the email
  • Make the call
  • Ask for the meeting
  • Look for your options
  • Go to the event
  • Learn about it
  • Enroll in the program
  • Explore.
  • Say “yes”
  • Say “no”
  • Start doing it
  • Stop doing it
  • Open your heart
  • Open your mind
  • Take the leap…without the net.

 

The second step is typically clearer after the first step. You definitely don’t have to worry about HOW this is all going to play out – that’s not your problem. Your job is to take the actions you can see in front of you right now.

 

Go ahead, join the revolution. Change your mind, your body, your money, your life, or whatever else needs changin’.

Get out there on the edge. You WILL create an amazing life, and you’ll probably inspire others to do the same.

How are YOU living on the edge? Post a comment and inspire someone today!

The 3 Best Times to Eat Sugar

When to Eat Sugar

There are times when it’s OK to eat sugar. I mean, let’s be realistic. When we talk about being “healthy for life,” this includes occasional indulgences.

 

Sugar doesn’t always taste like sugar. White bread and breakfast cereal don’t taste necessarily sweet, but their glycemic indexes are higher than that of table sugar. That means they will cause your blood sugar to rise faster than table sugar. To yo

ur body, they are VERY sweet!

 

So let’s talk in terms of high-glycemic foods, versus sugar, since that’s more comprehensive. The high-glycemic foods are often the ones you want to keep eating after you’re full, because it’s hard to stop. :)

 

So when is ok to eat high-glycemic foods?

 

Ideally, when ALL THREE of the following are true:

#1 WHEN YOU’RE ALSO EATING HEALTHY PROTEINS & GOOD FATS

The protein and fat will slow down how fast your blood sugar goes up. For example, I had some cake at a friend’s wedding. I had just eaten salmon for protein and fat, and my blood sugar remained stable.

 

If you are going to have pancakes on Sunday morning, put almond butter on them for your healthy fat and protein — also use buckwheat or multi-grain pancakes rather than white ones to lower the glycemic index — and then go ahead and use the maple syrup. Everyone is different, so notice how you feel after you’ve made the choice to eat something higher glycemic and monitor what works for you.

#2 WHEN EATING IT IS A CHOICE AND NOT A NEED

It is a need when your blood sugar is too low, when you are living on a high-glycemic roller coaster, and often when you are under a lot of stress and/or sleep deprived.

 

If you are having a lot of uncontrollable cravings, it is not generally a matter of will power. If you NEED a certain high-glycemic food, it may be time to do (or re-do) the 5-day RESET sugar cleanse to stablize you and eliminate the cravings.

 

If you are under a lot of stress, make it a priority to learn to manage it. This could include anything from beginning a 5-minute daily meditation to a undertaking a complete life transformation. Stress can be external or internal. If you are someone who is extremely hard on yourself, for example, that’s stressful.

 

Stress is a factor in needing sugar because it will cause your body to release glucose (sugar) into the blood stream. It does this to give you an energy source to deal with the stress, because it thinks you need to fight or flee, even though you probably don’t. The result is to get your blood sugar out of balance, setting you up for a crash and cravings. Plus, stress is just generally damaging to your body and quality of life.

#3 WHEN IT IS A SMALL PORTION OF YOUR MEAL OR SNACK

The total glycemic index of a meal or snack is an average of everything you are eating at that time. When you choose to eat something high glycemic — and you’re including some good fats and protein — keep the high-glycemic percentage small.

Top 6 Reasons to Manage Your Blood Sugar:

  1. You’ll have more energy.
  2. You’ll store less fat and have a healthier metabolism.
  3. You’ll think more clearly.
  4. You’ll sleep better.
  5. You’ll reduce inflammation in your body, reducing your risk of disease.
  6. You’re less likely to have high cholesterol, blood pressure, & triglycerides.

 

So, do you agree or disagree it’s ok to eat some sugar sometimes? Post a comment!

Why You’re Short on Time & Money

Scarcity of Time & Money Are Related

It dawned on me a couple of years ago that scarcity of time and money are related. You’ve heard “time is money”, but I want to go deeper than that.

 

It’s so common to hear people say “I wish I had more time” or “I can’t afford it” or “There aren’t enough hours in the day” or “There’s not enough (time or money) to go around” etc. Any of those statements is like affirming to yourself that you wish for that scarcity to continue. The stress of living this way is incredibly hard on your body and impacts everything from your sugar cravings to your sleep.

 

Sometimes people fear becoming wealthier and more financially healthy because they falsely assume it means they will be busier. This is not true.

 

My friend, mentor, and authority on women and wealth, Barbara Stanny, sums it up by saying that “no one is busier than an under-earner.” Under-earners earn less than they need or desire, despite efforts to do otherwise. The sad part is that they often feel they don’t have enough time to pursue opportunities that would earn them more money, not realizing that they’ve set it up that way.

 

In The Big Leap, Gay Hendricks explains that time actually comes from YOU. Most in our culture operates as if there’s a scarcity of time (and money) and pit themselves in a race against it. But Hendricks explains that this isn’t really how time works. You know how sometimes an hour seems like five minutes, and vice versa? He calls it Einstein Time, because Einstein did indeed prove that time is actally relative – it’s not absolute! It bends, shapes, expands, and contracts.

 

When it comes to money, many people treat it like a zero-sum game – as if to have more, it has to be lost from somewhere else. This is also not true! Money is energy, there is an unlimited supply of it, and it will flow where it is welcome, expected, and safe.

Secrets to gaining control of your time and money:

  1. Stop your addiction to being busy. If you are “always busy” and burning yourself out, you’ve created that for yourself. Say “no” and set some boundaries. Stop the email madness. Decline or leave current commitments that do not serve you or give you a sense of pleasure and joy. Take a personal 1-3 day retreat and get some perspective on your life.
  2. Take a look inside yourself. This is an inside job. What do you get out of being broke and/or busy all the time? Is your identity tied to not having enough? What is your first memory of money? The answer to that last question is probably related to your current relationship with money and might provide some insights.
  3. Know that there is an unlimited supply of money and time. Practice saying to yourself, “I have more than enough time and money.” Your conscious mind will send this message to your subconscious mind, which is really what’s steering the ship of your life.

If these are radical concepts, read Hendricks’ The Big Leap and The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity, by Catherine Ponder, and ask me about joining the LiveLong Wealth Revolution.

 

If an incredible opportunity knocked on your door, and you said “I don’t have enough time” or “I don’t have enough money” for that, you’ve got it reversed. What if I told you I’d give you $10,000 if you gave me $1,000 tomorrow? I bet you’d figure it out, because you CREATE time and money.

 

Leave a comment and pass this along to those who are broke and too busy!

  • How have you felt time or money expand/contract in your life?
  • When has saying “no” given you more time or money?
  • What are you ready to do to transform your relationship with time and money?

 

 

Why NOT to Drink Water When You Eat

It’s Feel Good Friday! This quick video explains why you want to avoid drinking much water during meals and snacks, and why you need to chew your food.

 

Just because you eat, for example, 10 grams of a particular nutrient like zinc doesn’t mean your body will absorb it! Follow these tips to get more nutrition from your food.

 

And for those of you with any troublesome bloating, digestive pain, or gas, they can also be helpful.

 

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Mistakes That Keep You Craving Carbs & Storing Winter Fat

This topic is inspired by the upcoming Winter Solstice. When I say “craving carbs,” I’m talking about the kind that spike your blood sugar – also known as high-glycemic carbohydrates. This includes sugary foods as well as white bread, white pasta, white potatoes, instant foods, whole wheat flour, chips, juice, bottled smoothies, etc. There are also “good” carbs like whole grains, fruits, and veggies, and that’s not the problem.

Spiked blood sugar leads to cravings and extra fat storage – not what we want! As you move through the holidays, keep these mistakes in mind, and do the opposite.

Choose even just ONE thing from the solutions below to have a healthier and happier season.

It makes all makes a difference!

MISTAKE #1: Allow un-abated stress to run your life. Chronic stress depleted your body of the “feel good” neurotransmitters – serotonin and beta-endorphins. To compensate, you’ll then crave sugar/carbs to give you a temporary “hit” to help you feel good, but it sets you up on an addictive cycle. Over time, you need more and more sugar/carbs for the same hit. Stress also increases your cortisol levels –> your body then releases glucose –> your body then creates new fat cells, puts you on the sugar roller coaster, and sets you up for cravings later.

SOLUTION #1: Seek moments of pleasure every day. When you catch yourself all stressed out, light a candle, call a friend, take a deep breath, walk around the block, listen to a favorite song, laugh, or find something that feels good – if only for a moment. Take baby steps towards reducing the busyness in your life, a.k.a. The Addicted to Busyness Syndrome. What can you release to leave more room to….breath? Allow stillness. Truly great people are not addicted to busyness. They “allow stillness while staying in motion,” as my friend Barbara Stanny puts it.

MISTAKE #2: Skimp on water. If you live in a colder climate, you’ll probably need more water than usual in the winter months, since the heat can be dehydrating. Your thirst pangs are easy to misinterpret as hunger pangs, and then you may crave a high-glycemic carb/something sweet. In addition, your liver can be overburdened under dehydrated conditions, and it then has a harder time with its job of fat excretion.

SOLUTION #2: Use a water bottle with a specific number of ounces, and keep track of how many you need to consume in a 24-hour period to get at least ½ your weight in ounces. I use a pint glass (16 ounces), so I know I need at least 4 of them per day.

MISTAKE #3: Let yourself get REALLY hungry, EVER, and show up to parties and restaurants completely starving, because you’ve been “saving up” all day. The problem here is that you’ve let your blood sugar crash, which as you know causes your body to go into a stress response. As you know, then it releases cortisol, then it releases glucose (sugar) to provide an energy source for your emergency. The sugar roller coaster ensues, which bring cravings for high-glycemic foods, and fat storage.

SOLUTION #3: Eat every 2-3 hours, in small quanties, always including a low-glycemic carb with protein and fat. Have a snack an hour or so before going to a party or a restaurant. The extra 150-250 calories from a small snack are nothing compared to the entire bread basket you’ll want to devour when you’re starving. For a snack, try Mary’s Gone Crackers brand crackers with hummus, some veggies with humous or a hard-boiled egg, or a small apple with almond butter.

MISTAKE #4: Skimp on sleep. Sleep deprivation results in a hormonal imbalance that causes your body to think it’s not full when it is, and to feel hungry when it isn’t. Have you ever notice how much more likely you are to go for that sweet indulgence when you’re exhausted? You’re body is looking for a quick energy source, and sugar does it.

SOLUTION #4: Find ways to expand your sleeping hours. By the flow of nature, we actually need more sleep in the winter months. Get to sleep a little earlier, even if you start with 15 extra minutes. Set the alarm clock 15 minutes later. Take a cat nap. Skip the alarm clock, at least twice a week. Start your day a little later if you can. You’ll probably get just as much done, if not more.

MISTAKE #5: Skip breakfast. The only as bad as skipping breakfast is eating something like a bowl of cereal and processed orange juice. If you’re not hungry for breakfast, it can be a sign of ill health in your liver, and you may need extra support for optimal liver function.

SOLUTION #5: Have breakfast! And please don’t make it cereal and processed juice, or anything “white” or instant. Be sure you combine good carbs with good proteins and good fats, like a Nutrimeal shake; buckwheat pancakes with almond butter and sliced apples; steel-cut oatmeal; whole-grain toast (NOT whole wheat flour, go for whole grain, stone ground, or sprouted) with almond butter and an orange; or a veggie scramble topped with some avocado.

What’s one little thing that you will change from these ideas? Or, do you have some of your own?

 

Lead a Different Kind of Life

Dare to be different. Go against the grain. Take the road less traveled.  March to the beat of your own drummer.

Lead a different kind of life.

I recently had an “ah hah” moment as I was thinking about my purpose – seeking an answer to the the proverbial “why am I here” question, and that leads directly to why is my business here.

And I realized that I am here, and my business exists – to show the way to living a different kind of life. I find that so many people – probably most people — aren’t all that happy or healthy. So to be different from that is what I’m after.

Then I had to think about what “a different kind of life” means, because I know that I’m living it, but I wanted to be able to articulate it. Here’s what it looks like when you live this way:

  • You do not align yourself with what the masses are doing. You follow your own path.
  • You are fueled by the power of the soul, not the power of the ego, and you therefore are free of the influence of fear. It doesn’t mean you don’t experience fear. It means you ignore it and do what you need to do in spite of it.
  • You have the courage to take the leaps of faith that are necessary.
  • You are accountable unto yourself. When you lead a different kind of life, you are disciplined. In other words, you are a disciple unto yourself.
  • You choose to enjoy life and find happiness in moments both large and small.
  • You have faith.
  • You are persistent in pursuing your dreams. You never give up. You do what it takes, and you keep going until you’re there.
  • You choose a profession based on who you are, what is meaningful to you, and how you want to contribute to the world.
  • You build your own dream.
  • You do not stay busy for the sake of being busy. You allow stillness to hear your inner voice and allow uncomfortable feelings to come up, so you can release them.
  • You create financial freedom as soon as possible, allowing you the time freedom that comes with it, and the flexibility to do and to give as you wish. For me, financial freedom is possible via residual income — the kind of income that comes in whether you are working or not. (See the “Wealth Revolution” page.)
  • You fuel your days with enthusiasm for your activities, not with white-knuckled effort or fear.
  • You prioritize your health and relationships, so that you can live a long, healthy, and happy life.

This is what I help people to do, and that’s why I’m here.

You live this way in how you care for your body, work, relationships, money, and personal growth.

Go ahead, leave a comment — Tell me what YOU think defines “a different kind of life”!